Q: I caught my spouse having an affair with somebody else. Can I use this evidence so that he/she will start behaving responsibly towards our family?A: The first thing to do when you have a problem with your marriage is to ask yourself: do both of you want to save the marriage?
I have seen marriages which survived and grew stronger despite the fact that one or both spouses had sex with someone else. Equally unexpectedly, I also know of marriages that collapsed after just one unpleasant discussion.
From your question, I do not know whether you and your spouse would want to continue to work at the marriage. It is hard work, I can tell you that. To work out this problem, I recommend that you both see a counsellor as early as possible.
Where Singapore's law is concerned, a man must provide for food, housing, clothing and transportation for his wife regardless of whether they intend to divorce or stay married until the wife dies or remarries later. This remains true even if they decide to divorce and the man proves he is not to blame for the "break up". This means that if a husband has not provided for the financial needs of the wife and children, the wife can apply to the courts to order him to be responsible for such needs.
Nov 21, 2008 - 07:18 PM
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