Matrimonial problems and divorce are often difficult to deal with. To actually realise and admit that your marriage is not working isa turning point in your life.Because of the sensitivity of this particular subject, we've decided to take a more intimate Q&A approach with one of our resident lawyers to provide more personalised answers for the issues we've raised. Hopefully writing the subject this way will make for an easier read and better understanding of the various issues.
While we try our best to cover all aspects of this subject, the issues we raise do not cover as many questions as we would like to answer. This being the case, this know your rights topic will expand as time goes by to cover a wider variety of issues raised about the matrimonial problems and divorce.
Unhappiness with your marriage
Q: I am feeling very unhappy with my marriage. Should I go for counselling ? Or should I get divorced? If so, will I lose out in any way because the divorce?
A: I'm afraid this is the point where you must sort out how you feel or what is most important to you. You will soon have even more questions to tackle, such as:
- if you are unhappy over something your spouse did, can you ever forgive him or her?
- if you have to split up money and other shared belongings - which usually means some financial losses to either of you - is it more unbearable than the unhappiness you are facing?
- if you have children, will they be able to handle the tension or awkwardness between Daddy and Mummy?
I recommend that you speak to a trained counsellor first. You must be frank with the counsellor so that he/she can help you realise what is most important to you. A lawyer can try to get what you want for you. He /she cannot tell you whether you would want to divorce more badly than the children, the home or other belongings etc. So, as soon as you realise that the marriage is not working out, you and your spouse should start discussing these questions. Preferably with a counsellor, in case you find discussions being carried on at the top of your voices:-).
Sep 08, 2008 - 03:43 PM
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